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You Are The One We’ve Been Waiting For–Part 2

Posted in Uncategorized with tags , , , , , , , , , , , on May 25, 2013 by peace4diane

(Continued from WordPress Posting Dated May 19, 2013)…

Close your eyes and imaging yourself shipwrecked on a deserted island somewhere in the south Pacific. As you sit on the sandy beach alone, as you’ve sat on the  sandy beach alone for the last 1,367 days, you look to the horizon and see a  shadow that with time begins to favor what might be a cruise ship.

Helen Island, Helen Reef, Palau. Original description: “Helen’s Reef – a classic desert island – elevation above sea level about 8 feet.” (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

You stand up and squint your eyes because your eyes cannot believe themselves at this  moment: A ship is heading in your direction. You are rescued. You are okay.

This is the state of the demographic that is so profoundly affected by Mr.  Tony’s success. On the one hand, there are women who have been longing for a  man who openly demonstrates that he does not hate you simply because you are female. By the way he adores Kerry Washington and her alter-ego Olivia Pope, women sense that he is a loving, tender, caring man.  Tony represents the prototype of what we have wanted from a man all our lives and we are no longer forced to accept misogynistic hatred from black men.

On the other hand, there are women who have refused to compromise or accept poor treatment. The decision to live alone without a mate reflects  that we are not victims of domestic violence and abuse, either verbal or physical. We declare our independence from men who articulate their hatred for women,
or have no problem exploiting women, rejecting women and are especially hostile toward women of their own race. Isolation and loneliness is our only choice .

From personal experience, being alone is a quiet, dark place and we have waited for someone like Tony to turn on the light in the room. And that he has done. He is gently touching that place in the heart of every woman who lives in either of these rooms. He is not like
God, but he is god-like. He is touching the place that longs to be loved, to be known and to be heard.

We have always wanted to give ourselves completely to a man like Tony, but we have buried these longings deep inside us—until now. So when women say “I don’t know what it is about him, but I’m drawn to him,” or  “I really like/love him,” or  “I’m crushing on him,” or  “I wish he were my man,” what we are really doing is defining and giving voice to that longing inside us.

He expresses to Olivia the sentiments we wish to hear in our daily, mostly mundane lives: “I love you”, “I need to see you”, “I am nothing and you are everything”, “Wait for me”, “Watch me choose you”, and a personal favorite:  “I love you more than I love being president.” What woman of any race would not want to hear these words fed to her like a gourmet meal, week after week, day after day, hour after hour, minute after minute?

I am left to solve the mystery of Tony Goldwyn’s appeal to me. I find him sexy and attractive as a man. It is a turn on that he has been married to the same woman for over 20 years. I am turned on by the fact that he is the father of two girls who are obviously going to grow up to appreciate the men in their lives. It excites me that Tony is consistently classy in a Hollywood Clark-GableRock-Hudson sort of way. As an actor, throughout his career he has maintained dignity and integrity. As a director, his work is flawless and thoughtful.

Tony_in_Black_and_WhiteWhenever Tony wears a tuxedo, I get a rush—a refreshing alternative to the hood-rats too numerous to count who insist on wearing their pants around their ankles. Tony’s voice is like water flowing over rocks. His hair is the stuff of legends. His walk, his swagger is. . .well, uh…jazzy and sophisticated. So, it’s
no wonder that I proudly join the ranks with so many other women who have fallen in love with Anthony Howard Goldwyn.

Carry on, Mr. Goldwyn. Our ship has come in and you have flipped the switch.

You Are The One We’ve Been Waiting For

Posted in Uncategorized with tags , , , , , , , , , , , on May 19, 2013 by peace4diane
Actor, director Tony Goldwyn Photo courtesy

Actor, director Tony Goldwyn
Photo courtesy

Inspired by the title of a book by Alice Walker entitled We Are the Ones We Have Been Waiting For: Inner Light in a Time of Darkness (2006)

I’d like to take this opportunity to clarify some things.

As a cultural anthropologist, I have some observations which, in my normally humble opinion, need to be said. After watching an interview with Tony Goldwyn on Wednesday’s Watch What Happens Live (BRAVO), I got more insight into the phenomenon that is Tony Goldwyn and his amazing persona.

Specifically, I am seriously seeking the origin and nature of his appeal to middle-aged African American women and why masses of women of color are going bonkers for this man. Simply put, he is the one we’ve been waiting for.

Let me explain.

For years, women of color have been accepting their fate. Hated by their own race of men, they are forced into a corner to decide between surviving in a misogynistic, male-dominated world or living their adult lives alone.

It is no secret and should not be revelation to any women over age 30 that African American women would be drawn to a personality like Tony Goldwyn. Consistently he presents himself as a caring, loving person, the rare man who truly likes women and enjoys their company. We know him to be a compassionate man, advocating tirelessly for people who, though incarcerated, proclaim and maintain their innocence (Click here for more about Tony’s recent award for his dedicated work in this area and his ongoing involvement in  the Innocence Project.)

He is a passionate man as well as millions of viewers tune in faithfully each week to his most recent television project: Scandal on ABC. He is openly enamored with his talented co-star, Miss Kerry Washington and it’s no stretch that as his presidential character Fitz demonstrates each week, he holds equally in high esteem Miss Olivia Carolyn Pope.

There’s enough blogging and texting and instant-messaging and tweeting and facebooking and instagramming and tumbling going on out there that I do not need to expand on this aspect of Mr. Tony’s career.

That is not the intent of this blog entry.

As a cultural anthropologist, I want to examine that indescribable thing that ignites a fire in so many women like me, especially as one of African American descent, making this man’s extremist base grow exponentially. Close your eyes and imaging that you are shipwrecked on a deserted island somewhere in the south Pacific.

As you sit on the sandy beach alone, as you’ve sat on the sandy beach alone for the last 1,367 days, you look to the horizon and see a shadow that with time begins to favor what might be a cruise ship…TO BE CONTINUED.